Become Interesting


Have you noticed how some people are always full of stories & anecdotes. How they become the heart/soul of a party/gathering, and draw people like a magnet.

Ok, so lets become interesting. But how? These are people who have experiences, not, merely possessions. A new place, a new type of food, a new experience, that they enthral you with! Have stories to tell.

If in your last 10 conversations you have nothing new to say/tell people, you are in big trouble…. Take that as a sign and make some stories, have some adventures, life life, else you will end up with life passing by without you having lived it.

Take baby steps.

The easiest is by travelling. The journey itself will give you few starts, then the food you discover on the way, the people you meet, the place you stay in, the new places you visit, the photos you click……

Books are another way to go places before you visit them in person, and peeping into people’s thinking & minds before meeting them!

Whatever you choose to do, just start having fun in life….. That’s the surest way of making an interesting personality. Do everything you did before you became wise (or so you think), when you were a child & didn’t care if you looked silly wearing mismatched socks, just because you wanted to.

But why is it important to be interesting? I’ll tell you why. Not only because this will come handy professionally, but personally too.

Harvard said in a report that an important characteristic it seeks from applicants is that they should be ‘interesting’. What it means is that academic & extra curricular excellence is now the baseline, not a merit. You have to have an extra dimension to your personality to make you stand out.

In the professional world, interesting, lively people are more successful. They connect easily, have a wider social network & can easily fit into newer situations & milieu, thus have more propensity to grow.

Personally, these people are more open to change, are adaptive & open to risk taking, as that’s the part of their nature which makes them interesting. They experience live more openly, are less judgemental, don’t lose their mojo, and don’t get hit by mid-life crisis ;-D.

But why are we discussing this here? Well, because we should start early right? Open up your child’s horizons. Give her experiences, not just possessions. Encourage fickle mindedness (but in moderation). Let her try her hand at different things till she finds her calling. The process of elimination will eventually lead to the best fit, and in the course give her stories from the various things she experienced!


Lessons from a pigeon family

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As luck would have it, there is a pigeon couple who was visiting the sill outside my bathroom window for the past week. They would be found there very regularly talking to themselves animatedly.

I have been told that once these birds get familiar with a place, they tend to make it their home. Since I have two toddlers at home, I am very wary of infections & was trying to keep these birds away.

One morning, however, I saw the bird carry a twig in her beak, which she dropped on the window sill. A little later, the other bird came carrying another twig. That’s when I realised, they are in the process of building a nest & eventually start a family! The mother in me just didn’t have the heart to throw away their nascent efforts of building a nest so I let them be.

Unexpectedly, this started a fun journey for my daughter & me. She is very fond of animals & theoretically we try to educate her as much as we can, but this development provided us an opportunity to show her how the process actually takes place. I would ask her to tip toe to the bathroom when the birds would arrive with the twigs. I introduced her to the couple & she promptly named them mamma & papa pigeon. Together we started watching how the nest was taking shape.

In the night, my otherwise difficult to subdue daughter, would consciously be quite when she would brush her teeth, as the mamma pigeon was resting. We all eagerly waited for her to lay an egg. And lo & behold, this Sunday, we were greeted in the morning with a shiny egg 🙂  . No one was happier than my daughter, who was telling her brother over & over again, that a small little birdie would come out of the egg!

But in all this process, what I was touched by most was the way the couple worked together. Right from scouting for a conducive place to build a nest, to picking of twigs, the male was always shouldering equal responsibility, in fact when the she-pigeon was resting on the nest to lay the egg, the male was found right next to her, throughout the night.

We as humans, the most advanced species, make such a big deal about how responsibility is to be shared between a couple, while here there were two birds, working in such harmony & love, that amazed me.

Now that the mother is incubating the egg, she is found 24×7 on the same spot, protecting her egg, while I have to answer my inquisitive daughter, where the papa pigeon is, when does the mamma pigeon drink any water, why don’t I feed the mamma….and so on. My daughter & I are eagerly waiting for the D-day when the egg would hatch 🙂 and the place I filled with chirping!