We all know (at least the theory of it, else we would be publishing best seller books on Amazon & living off our old age on its royalty…sigh) of what it takes to make a marriage successful. But, as a mother, facing the same set of challenges and situations like all moms before and with me, I discovered 2 requisites for a marriage to flourish-
- Girlfriends– They may nod their head, agreeing to all your rants and frustrations, but if they are your best friends, they will make you see the real picture, put you in your right place, and net-net make little of the situation you are dealing with. What this leads to? Well, in married life, and especially in the ones with kids in it, there are many things that you face as a couple which you don’t know how to deal with. It’s difficult to reach out to siblings & parents for fear of being judged/ lack of understanding etc. But, girlfriends (best-friends) can experience your situation with you & yet see if from an outsider’s perspective, which is all it takes to solve the problem.
- Kids– Having a child teaches you selflessness to a degree you never imagined. Why is this important? Because kids teach you that they have to be loved, come what may. They may be right or wrong, well-behaved or obstinate, unreasonable or angry- whatever the emotion they throw at you- you have to never forget that they are kids and need to be loved. This underlined emotion doesn’t waver. We may treat the behaviour or situation as is fit, but, our emotions and loyalty to that little human being remains intact. Doesn’t a marriage require just that :)?